January 01, 2020
At the end of 2018, I told some friends, “This is the first year that wasn’t the best year of my life.” Fortunately, 2019 went better—it was full of big changes, rare opportunities, and emotional growth. In 2020, I’ll focus on being intentional about what I do so I can experience and enjoy life more fully. Specifically, my guiding principle is to align “what I want to be doing” with “what I’m actually doing” as closely as possible.
I split up this post into sections:
I visited lots of new places!
I tried for the first time: ax-throwing, In-N-Out, escape rooms, a VR gym, college, hot pot, alcohol (I still prefer water and Naked Juice Mighty Mango over literally everything else though).
I finally finished high school. During my last semester, I got a modified schedule to minimize the time I spent on campus since some staff caused me frequent, debilitating anxiety attacks.
I’m proud of scoring 5/5 on all my AP exams: Latin, English Literature, US History, and Psychology. Before high school, I’d never done any literary analysis before—anything beyond mere summarizing was new to me. I didn’t fully understand what an essay was until halfway through 10th grade, after reading a friend’s work and realizing, “Oh. That’s what I’m supposed to do.” I learned quickly, but because of those experiences, I thought I was a bad writer for a long time. Getting full scores on standardized writing exams, then, was validating—I wouldn’t have been able to accomplish that without knowing what I was doing.
I also started dating a wonderful person, and signed myself up for singing lessons—I’m out of practice now, but I’m glad I took action to improve here.
After graduation, I moved to San Francisco for two months to intern at Repl.it, an online IDE with a community of 2+ million makers and coders. After almost 100 unsuccessful attempts to get a biology research internship in Cambridge, I’d decided to just stay in my hometown and work on personal projects this summer. But through a cold email and luck, I managed to land this life-changing opportunity.
There are so many interns in the Bay Area during the summer, and it’s amazing! I especially loved meeting others at events Y Combinator hosted for its portfolio company interns. I helped organize Violet Hacks, a hackathon for early-career female and non-binary people, held at Github HQ! At the end of the summer, my organization Science and Us held its third event, a makeathon at Harvard.
For me, college began with a pre-orientation program focused on community service in greater Boston. This program also introduced me to the Urban Planning and Computer Science joint major, which is what I plan to do!
I took these classes:
This unusual schedule was made possible by experiments MIT is doing on academic policies and the first-year experience—more about my first semester in another post to come! I joined several clubs, notably TechX (specifically xFair, a career fair and tech expo), Asian Dance Team, Science Policy Review, and Chroma, a science and humanities magazine. I was also accepted for training to be a peer educator on sexual and relationship health, and am involved in Communicating Science at MIT.
Outside of school, I prepared and gave a TEDx talk about Science and Us—why I started it, what we’ve done, and some of my hot takes on education. I also gave a version of this talk at the VIP reception of HUBweek, a festival of arts, science, and technology. Co-founder Linda Henry, who co-owns The Boston Globe and the Boston Red Sox, introduced me as the “embodiment of HUBweek.” Shook. I’m still working on S&U and ran into personal challenges dedicating consistent time to it and becoming a better leader.
I built a website for We Are America, a project working with 1300+ students and teachers across 25 states to share stories and spark conversations about what it means to be American. My WAA teammates and I spoke at the Boston Book Festival! I was blown away by how many people lined up to buy our books after the panel. The Boston Globe also published my WAA story. I can’t read it because of the paywall, but the president of MIT apparently could, and he emailed me congratulations!
College life is great, but breaks from it are very welcome. In the past two weeks, I’ve:
I’ve realized there’s tremendous value in having unstructured time. When I schedule every half hour of my life, I might get more done, but it also restricts my creativity and thinking. There’s no room for the spontaneity that might lead me to make a side project, finally watch some Premiere Pro tutorials, or say yes to a last-minute event invite.
When I schedule every half hour of my life, I might get more done, but it also restricts my creativity and thinking.
In the last few days alone, I started listening to a podcast (I’ve always said I’m “not an audio person”) and realized I enjoy programming to an extent—all because I’m allowed to wander and spend extended periods doing something.
The somewhat aimless exploring and not-super-thought-out decisions of my first semester were okay, but I’m excited to intentionally break into fields I’ve been interested in for months, instead of lurking on the sidelines. I’ve also modified my spring schedule to squish all my classes together and maximize my unstructured time—I think it’ll be much better for my thinking and happiness.
In my summer 2019 preview, I wrote this: “It’s more important to work with the right people—people you respect, who are honest with themselves and others, and who are open-minded—than to choose the ‘right’ activity. This is especially evident as I’ve experienced noble ideas and projects ruined by toxic working environments. It also fits with my belief that values, not interests (which change often), connect people and provide meaning—more on that in another article later.”
I haven’t written the article mentioned above yet, but I still agree with all of that! Moving forward, I plan to emphasize this principle even more when making decisions and evaluating my life.
I had high expectations for how much I would explore and grow this summer in San Francisco. I didn’t meet them. Instead, I quickly became stagnant, which defined my work, daily routines, and how much I met new people. It’s evident in the fact that I never buckled down to establish an earlier sleep schedule or learn how to cook.
The main barrier was that I didn’t have the energy and mental capacity to snap out of it, look at my lifestyle, and take the simple—not necessarily easy, but usually undeniably simple—steps toward change. Even in college, I thought I would be attending way more events and meeting way more people. Instead, I flowed with my defaults, which are more introverted than expected.
What does this mean? Well, in high school, I believed that I couldn’t and shouldn’t plan more than a year ahead since so much would change every year, and any further plans would highly depend on what college I ended up attending. I still think that’s true—for my high school experience, one year was the only reasonable target for long-term planning.
Now, however, I want to think longer-term and make sure I’m steadily building toward the life I want to have, whether that means I’m eating lunch at a particular time every day, learning a skill through YouTube tutorials and side projects, or applying for certain internship roles.
Before college, I thought I wanted to join an entrepreneurship club. At the start of the semester, though, I was alienated by how business clubs recruited. In general, entrepreneurship on campus seemed unnecessarily formal and academic. Oh, you have a startup idea? Put on a suit and take a class over at Sloan.
Because of those impressions and assumptions, I ended up not engaging much with MIT’s (mainstream) entrepreneurship community. When I did, though, I realized I was missing out. I have similar regrets about other things I chose not to try. Moving forward, I want to be more diligent about exploring opportunities before saying no.
There are a few people who just really want me to fail, or enjoy taking out their insecurities on me online. There are also people with valid, constructive criticism about me and my work—I’m not talking about them. I’ve learned that I have to differentiate between these two groups of people. The first kind is useless to engage with, and the second kind is valuable and humbling.
For a while, I let my fear of the first kind control my self-perception and behavior. I shied away from trying and sharing projects because I didn’t want to hear from the tiny handful of trolls, even if 40% of my network would find the project cool and 50% don’t give a damn either way. Moving forward, I aim to err on the side of trying, doing, and sharing (publicly, in case it wasn’t explicit enough) anyway. Chances are, people support me, and I need to believe in myself too.
In high school, I thought I would never be able to perform at the level of my prep school and elite public school counterparts. They were more privileged, more intelligent, and started earlier, prodded by their parents, granting them insurmountable advantages.
Now, they’re my classmates, and it didn’t take long for me to realize that I actually do a lot, even in the context of MIT. I experienced the opposite of what many of my peers felt—blows to their self-esteem due to no longer being the smartest person they know.
I want to make sure that I’m doing everything I want to do and that I want to do everything I’m doing.
Well, that’s good to know, but more important is what follows from that. I can do a lot, but I shouldn’t do everything I can do. I want to make sure that I’m doing everything I want to do and that I want to do everything I’m doing. And I want to prioritize the overlooked things that make my life run, like having unstructured time and better routines.
I set 8 goals for myself this year. Inspired by Linus, they’re ambitious, sometimes bordering on impossible. “Regardless of whether or not I hit these numbers and results, they push me to being where I want to be, and setting that direction is far more important to me than actually hitting the targets, which are pretty arbitrary.”
Other things I want to learn/do/improve, but haven’t set concrete goals around:
Overall, my guiding principle is to align “what I want to be doing” with “what I’m actually doing” as closely as possible. I want to have more confidence, gratitude, and open-mindedness, less complacency, and check in with myself often.